I love my family.
I’m sure you love yours too. Family is so important to me. So much so that I guard time with them. I was speaking with a man today (actually, I had four counseling sessions today…full day indeed) and I told him that I couldn’t be honorable in giving him encouragement and advice about his family if I didn’t protect the time with mine. I told him about a recent trip to Carowinds. Here we are eating…
But, it’s hard to find that time. And it is for you too. I know that it is for me. But, we have to make the time for the things that are important in life. Being a work-a-holic it’s even harder. I have always associated so much of my self-worth with hard work. None stop. Go, go, go! It’s a constant battle for me. But, I do believe I’m getting better with age.
Honestly, as you get older you realize what’s important in more and more profound ways. Like this…
Those images say so much about what’s important. You might look at those smiles again. Priceless.
I have made a commitment not to let the work of ministry destroy my family as I’ve seen it do to so many pastors’ families. Now, don’t get me wrong. I understand that there is a time and a place where a pastor has to be there for members of the church. Certainly, emergencies come to mind. Yet, there must be some off-hours for a pastor or he will end up losing his family. I’ve seen it happen way too many times.
In fact the Bible is clear:
1 Timothy 3:4-5
4 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?
Pastors lose their families (particularly their children) because they are never there for them. But, we’ve got it backwards. Verse 5 says as much.
I read this article a few days ago and it’s very poignant. http://www.lifeway.com/pastors/2015/08/05/a-pastors-greatest-regret-after-a-lifetime-of-ministry/#.Vcy9K3mk6ew.twitter
This gist of it can be summarized in this one paragraph…
After 50 years of ministry the pastor said, “The minister who learns to say ‘no’ in order to protect his time with the family will occasionally anger a self-centered, demanding church member. But it’s a small price to pay, and in the long run, works out best both for the family and the immature member. Only a strong pastor can do this. I sure wish I’d been one.”
It’s taken me 10 years to learn the art of this and I’m still learning.
What about you?
To what or to whom do you need to say, “No?” It won’t be easy. But, we can’t be all things to all people and perhaps it’s time you need to swallow your prided and stop trying. In the end it will be worth it. I promise.
I’m thankful to have a church that understands this. How about you? Does your employer understand that there are times you can’t stay late (again) because you need to see your child’s game or simply have a meal with them at decent hour of the night? Take it from a 47-year-old man. They grow up so fast and then they are gone. Don’t miss out.
The reason I write this is because I have so many young pastors who read my blog. So, please listen to this middle-age-baldie . I know what I’m talking about. 🙂
Have you heard the strongest El Nino we’ve had since 1997 is brewing off the east coast of South America. It will knock up the temperature globally and the Global Warming folks will be buzzing. But, after this El Nino there will be a drop off of the Global temps just like in the late 90’s. It’s a cyclical thing. Yet, there are many folks out there who hype this thing. Like the Obama administration. Did you hear what this man said about it?
In part the article said this:
In 2008, Dr. Ivar Giaever joined over 70 Nobel Science Laureates in endorsing Barack Obama for president, but seven years later the Nobel Prize winner now stands against the president on global warming. “I would say that basically global warming is a non-problem,” Giaever, who won the Nobel for physics in 1973, told an audience at the Lindau Nobel Laureate meeting earlier this month.
Giaever ridiculed Obama for stating that “no challenge poses a greater threat to future generations than climate change.” The physicist called it a “ridiculous statement” and that Obama “gets bad advice” when it comes to global warming. “I say this to Obama: Excuse me, Mr. President, but you’re wrong. Dead wrong,” Giaever said.
Giaever was a professor at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute’s School of Engineering and School of Science and received the Nobel Prize for physics for his work on quantum tunneling. Giaever said he was “horrified” about the science surrounding global warming when he conducted research on the subject in 2012.
I mentioned a while back that an average El Nino typically brings colder and snowier weather to our region. The southern jet gets really juiced up. The truth is there is a sharp dividing line that normally sets up and sometimes North Carolina and Virginia can get left out.
I never thought I’d say this, but it appears China and Russia were actually on the right side of an issue versus the United States. Did you hear?
United Nations Reaffirms the Family: The World vs. the West
It’s easy as Christians in America to feel like our views and values are out of fashion. And in many ways they are. With so many rejecting the biblical family and our federal government leading the charge to dismantle any public recognition of marriage, it’s clear we’re living in a country in rebellion against God and his design. But America is far from a global majority report. And a recent resolution overwhelmingly supported by developing nations shows just how out-of-sync our country’s progressive and secular values are with the rest of the world.
Last week the United Nations Human Rights Council in Geneva approved the “Protection of the Family” resolution, an unprecedented affirmation of the traditional family, its place in society, and the priority it takes over all other institutions. LifeNews reports that the resolution passed with broad support from developing countries, especially in Africa, and also enjoyed backing from major powers like Russia and China, as well as a host of conservative non-governmental organizations. Twenty-seven nations voted to approve it. Among the 14 delegations that opposed the resolution were the United States, the United Kingdom, Ireland, and most other Western, developed powers.
Sharon Slater of Family Watch International called the vote an “unprecedented,” “tremendous victory for the family.” She noted that it marks a historic first for the United Nations — the approval of a comprehensive resolution calling for “the protection of the family as a fundamental unit of society, recognizing the prior rights of parents to educate their children, and calling on all nations to create family-sensitive policies and recognize their binding obligations under treaty to protect the family.”
The last couple of decades in this country has been catastrophic for the nuclear family. Satan is laughing his head off. He’s doing all he can to destroy the family (which was God’s idea from the Garden of Eden) and he’s doing an amazing job at it. We’ve redefined it in America to be anything and everything now. But, I’m going to continue to preach and teach the biblical definition of marriage and family. I can only hope we’ll be able to reverse course one day.