I had never heard of that name in my life until a few days ago. Now it’s popping up everywhere. And the bad thing is that it’s splitting up a ton of families. Of course this is the name of the website where you can sign up and cheat on your spouse. The Duggar family has once again been rocked by the actions of Josh Duggar. The latest, of course, being the discovery of his name on this site and his participation as such.
“Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.”
So sad…so sad.
But, you know what? We’re all sinners. It’s a funny thing how we can offer such praise and admiration for some and not for others. Funny how we praise some sin in this country and call others deplorable. I guess it’s all about who is committing the sin. Bruce Jenner is good to go. Let’s give him an award. Homosexual marriage is good to go. Sports stars can cheat on their wives and still be applauded and set attendance records at the Wyndham Open. Even politicians’ spouses can have sex in the Oval office and all can be forgiven. Unless… Unless you are someone who doesn’t line up with your agenda.
Now, I’m not defending Josh Duggar. What he’s done is deplorable and if he’s truly a born-again follower of Christ, (and that’s a big “if” in my mind right now, based on his latest actions), then there should be time given to see if there is genuine repentance in his life. There should be prayers offered for him and his wife and children. And we should offer the same amount of mercy and grace as the world wants to offer Bruce Jenner and the folks who can’t get a cake baked for their gay wedding. Surely Christians can get on board with that. I would hope we could and we will!
But, here’s the thing that’s struck me about this whole Ashley Madison situation. It’s the symptom of bigger problem. The sexual revolution that started in the 1960’s has finally locked into high gear. What have we got from this revolution?
- Rampant Pornography
- Gay Marriage acceptance
- Transgendered acceptance
- Cohabitation acceptance
- No-fault divorce
- Abortion on Demand
- Planned Parenthood
- Selling of Baby parts
We’re sick folks! Deeply sick! And that’s what a sexual revolution will do for a nation in about 50 years. It will turn it into Rome.
You see, when you have unbridled sex, it breeds tremendous problems. You see, when as a culture you say, “Let’s have all the sex we want. Let’s have it when we want it and with whom we want it and we’ll all just be as happy as a clam!” Well, we’re fools!
All of this “free love” has given us a country with rampant sexual sin. And lest you want to heap all the judgment you can muster on the LGBT community, what about the fact that your 16-year-old son is possibly looking at porn on his smart phone and you say nothing about it. In fact you never ask him, because you are afraid. Yet, you pay the bill for what might be destroying his sexual purity.
Ma’am…sir…what about the fact that your 17-year-old daughter might be having sex with her boyfriend (of 9 months) right under your nose in your own basement (while they’re watching a movie of course)? What about the fact that your 20-something is living with someone who they’re not married to? And oh…it gets better. In just a few months, they contact you and tell you that you’re going to be a grandparent! Oh believe me…that doesn’t slow Christians down from bragging. It’s no big deal…after all…it’s just the culture we live in, right?
Well, it is a big deal! It’s sexual sin and it’s wrong! 100% wrong! I don’t care how we try to color it, everything I’ve just described from the LGBT community to Josh Duggar, to your sexually active teenager is sin. The Bible says it is. What does it say? It says that it’s the will of God that we should not live in sexual sin. It’s the WILL OF GOD that we know how to control our bodies!
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.
We are totally disregarding God and His Word in this whole matter as a nation and even in the Church. So, mom and dad, do you know what your “dating” kids are doing behind closed doors? When their curfew is 11 pm and they go to a 7 pm movie (that gets out at 8:30), what will they be doing for the next 2 1/2 hours? Do you know?
Oh…I know what some are thinking. “Hey Kevin…get back on the the talk about Bruce Jenner! Let’s talk about Josh Duggar! Let’s talk about Jared the Subway guy!” Well, I’m sorry! We’ve got to stop being hypocrites in the church. Yes, let’s talk about the smut that we watch on TV and entertain ourselves with each weekend? Let’s talk about the fact that we won’t spend $11/month to get software protection on our teens’ phones, iPads or computers (Covenant Eyes). (Listen, if you have a teenage son and you don’t do this for him…you are setting him up for failure sexually. I don’t care how strong you think he is… The lure of sexual sin is devastating. Read Proverbs 7 if you don’t believe me.)
No…no… I’m not JUST going to lament about Planned Parenthood and the abortion industry, the legalization of Gay Marriage (and we should lament). But, I must be a person of integrity and discuss the sexual sin we (the Church) have justified for far too long. We don’t want to talk about divorce in the Church. We don’t want to talk about the sexual day-dreaming and the mental sexual trysts.
Folks, why do you think there is a market for an Ashley Madison website? It’s coming from our culture of sexual acceptance. We can’t be inundated with sex from the time we are kids and think that just because we put a gold or silver band on the left ring finger that we’re going to remain celibate. We’re crazy if we do!
Oh, that we would once again hunger and thirst for righteousness and desire to be pure in heart! But, I’m here to tell ya…the Gospel of Jesus Christ is no less effective. The good news is that Jesus can bring healing and restoration for all those who come to him in sincere and genuine confession and repentance. Notice I said, “sincere and genuine.” That’s the key. It’s not about owning up to something after you get caught… It’s about owning up to the fact that you are a sinner and without the mercy and grace of God through His Son Jesus Christ, there is no hope for you!
I pray that we, believers in Christ, will be ready, willing and available to help in the fall out of a culture that has embraced such overt sexual sin. And please remember, a light shines brightest in the greatest darkness. Even when it goes by the name Ashley Madison.
I spoke to this fact in yesterday’s “Two-Minute Tuesday.”