I’m so glad spring seems to be finally here. It’s 81 degrees as I type these words!
But, I’ll warn you. It’s going to get cool again by the middle to end of next week. Thankfully, “cool” in the spring means in the 50’s for day-time highs and not in the 30’s! Woohoo!!
I will also give you a head’s up that this year’s hurricane season looks to be below average (like last year), but we’ll have more hurricanes that could pop up right along the southeast and gulf coasts. We are starting to see the beginnings of an El Nino off the South American coast and that will blow off the tops of most storms as the southern Jetstream will sheer the storms as they come of the African coast. And you know what an El Nino means. That means a rough winter next year. Plan on next winter being very similar to this winter.
Hey…my books are in!!!
You know it’s amazing! I never cease to be amazed how God works. The books arrived last Thursday and I’ve been preaching through 1 Thessalonians, right? Yep! And right when I get to 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, they arrive. Get this:
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.
Do you think those verses go right along with my book or what? Only God can do that. His timing is amazing!
As I shared with the church Sunday, this idea of saving ourselves for marriage seems to have fallen out of favor even in the church. The church is having very little impact on the world regarding purity. There is a section in my book that’s entitled “Not Sticky” and I talked about it Sunday. Here’s an excerpt from my sermon:
Just how many times can you stick and unstick a sticky note? Studies tell us on average…young people will have 5 to 8 relationships before they finally marry in their late 20’s. And do you know what happens each time in one of those relationships? That young couple becomes romantically involved with one another, they begin to bond emotionally. They increasingly share their hearts with one another. Their thoughts and imaginations are focused on their partner. Without knowing it…what they have done is to begin the God-designed process of becoming “one,” even if there is virtually no physical relationship. They become one heart long before they become “one flesh.”
Did you know that neuroscientists tell us sexual activity releases brain chemicals which trigger emotional bonding and a powerful desire to repeat the activity? It all begins with just a touch…holding hands…leads to hugs…leads to kissing…leads to… Breaking these bonds over and over make it much harder later in life to bond with a future spouse.
Young people here today…are you bonding emotionally with someone. It’s going to make it much harder when you get married. Because you are using up a lot of your “sticky.”
Here my heart… It’s why I wrote the book. It’s why I’m so passionate on this subject. As I worked my way through writing my book, the Lord made it clear to me again that 20th and 21st century idea of dating…the very idea of what I call “recreational romance” has created a revolving door mentality for our young people. They have been so exposed to so many relationships prior to marriage, no wonder they find it so hard to eventually settle down with one spouse. No wonder we have a 50+% divorce rate even in the church. They are simply repeating what they’ve been doing for years. Just because a pastor (like me) asks a bride and groom to place rings on each other’s fingers and repeat, “Till death do us part,” means almost nothing today. Do we really believe that a ring on our left hand is going to change what’s been trained in the brain?
Jesus said in Matthew 19…
4“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
We’ve lost our sticky folks! (BY THE WAY…this totally knocks out homosexuality…it’s MALE AND FEMALE). The point is this…
Just how many times can a person be in a relationship and give his or her heart emotionally (if not physically) away to someone before he or she cannot stick anymore? This cleaving and uncleaving is not what God intended for us. It is not how God expects us to arrive to the marriage altar. But, this is what we do isn’t it? And when I preach this…people look at me like I’ve got four heads. But, I’m giving you the full counsel of God’s Word, dear Church family. I wish someone had told me!
And it’s true…I wish someone had told me! How about you? Could the same be said of you? It’s why I wrote the book. They are $5. They are available on Amazon (Kindle for 99 cents) and hard copy. It’ll take you 1 1/2 hours to read it. It’s only 31 pages long. You can also order direct from my publisher…
http://direct.energion.com/to-date-or-not-to-date?search=to date or not to date
If you want to see someone else who is seeking to follow Scripture in the matter of “dating.” Take a look…
Well…while I’ve stirred the hornets nest…I’ll just go all the way. I saw this bumper sticker and absolutely lost it…
(You’ll have to decide HOW I lost it. :))
Josh and Katy are coming home! They’ll be home later tonight! Can’t wait! They’re coming in to see the Passion Play this weekend at church. Boy, do I love it when the whole family is in town!