The older I get, the more I learn. You might say, “Come on, Kevin…you’ve got to be a tad brighter than that!” Yes, it sounds simple, but it is so true.
I was thinking earlier tonight about several things that flashed through my mind as I walked down the hall of my house leading from Clara and Andrew’s bedrooms. I thought, “Pretty soon…they’ll be gone too.” As that thought pierced through my mind it lodged deep in my spirit and it hurt. I came and stood in front of the piano in our den. Above it is a picture of Katy, Kandace, Clara and Andrew from about three years ago. And time stopped. For just a moment…I thought, “Kevin, what have you learned?” I wandered into my bedroom and I saw Pam’s wedding picture on the wall. I thought, “Kevin, what have you learned?”
I believe these questions were coming from the Holy Spirit. Why? I’m not sure. It was almost like a spiritual inventory of sorts that was taking place.
Can I share with you my thought? May I share with you what I’ve learned in 22+ years of marriage and almost 45 years of living? Here goes:
#1 Time flies…don’t waste it. Don’t waste time. Take each day “captive” and use it for the glory of God. Don’t be lazy or foolish with the time you have. Live every day like it’s your last, because you never know when it might be.
#2 Enjoy the wife of your youth. Cherish the time you have with your spouse while your health is good and the kids are well. Cherish it. It WILL pass all too quickly.
#3 Be careful about mixed messages to the kids. Be the same at home as you are in front of people at church (in front of your kids). Hypocrisy kills their ability to believe in the God we say we love.
#4 Don’t spend money that you don’t have. Even though there is plenty of “free credit” out there…it’s never free. It comes at a high price called debt and debt kills. If you find yourself in a hole…
#5 Pray with your spouse. Pam and I pray every night before we go to bed. “Every night?” you ask? Yep. Every night, unless I’m out of town on a mission trip. Why is this important? Because it automatically lessens the chance for an argument knowing what’s coming. Do Pam and I argue? Yes, occasionally but as we have grown and matured together it’s not really arguments. Usually they are just misunderstandings. Why? Because we have grown so close together that our goals and our viewpoints and our understanding of the world (through the lens of Scripture) is almost identical. What a blessing she is to me!
#6 Work hard. Set the example as a believer in Christ what it looks like to give your very best and “work as unto the Lord.”
#7 Have a daily prayer time and spend time in the Bible. You and I will never be any better in public than we are in private with our Lord. I have never met a person that I put a lot of stock in that was not a serious student of the Bible. Every person that I sincerely trust and value their opinion can rightly divide and handle the Word of truth. I want to be a workman and student of the Scripture that need not be ashamed.
#8 Don’t watch much TV. TV paralyzes the brain. Read. Read the Bible. Read good books. If I watch TV it’s for short stints to let my brain rest. Then it’s things that will relax. Old TV shows on DVD or Food Network (I love “Diners, Drive-in’s and Dives.”) I will eat all the foods I’ve seen on that show in heaven some day. You say, “Do you think we’ll eat in heaven?” Definitely! Jesus ate with his glorified body (fish and honeycomb) in the upper room. So will we! And the kicker! We won’t get fat and I won’t have to count calories. And that brings me to number 9.
#9 Don’t overeat. Enjoy food. Can I admit to you that one year ago I was in the process of losing over 30 pounds. Why? Because I simply ate too much and didn’t enjoy the food I was eating. I was just eating till I was full. Problem is…we get full about 20 minutes after we eat. We have to stop eating just before “feeling” full. If you cut out 500 calories per day, in seven days that’s 3500 calories and that equals one pound. What’s 500 calories? That’s the second helping or the large piece of pie with ice cream. Just have a small piece and no ice cream and over a period of weeks…the weight drops off.
#10 Major on the major and minor on the minor. Translated. Don’t worry about what you can’t control and work hard on those that you can. Leave the rest with the Lord. Don’t try to be all things to all people. I used to and I can speak from experience…it will burn you out. You will make people mad when you tell them, “No.” But, you and I serve an audience of one, Jesus Christ and it’s to Him we’ll answer.
Well, that’s 10 things I’ve learned. Is there more? Yes. Problem is that I’m not finished studying/preparing for tomorrow evenings message at church and Iron Men. So, it’s back to the books. But, before I go… Many ask about Katy and Josh.
So here is an update from Katy on her life with Josh. It’s a tear-jerker. It’s found here… http://heartsonthingsabove.blogspot.com/2013/01/out-pours-my-heart.html
I’m trying to talk Katy into writing a book about her life leading up to the altar. My wonderful publisher (Energion Publishing, Henry Neufeld http://energionpubs.com/) said he would be interested in it. Do you think she ought to write a book about her journey through her teen years…being a pastor’s daughter…being homeschooled…saving herself for her husband? Would you be interested? Email Katy if you think you would be. firstname.lastname@example.org
Lastly, many have asked about Kim and Craig’s adoption from Russia. Still no definitive news. But, the reports of marches taking place in Moscow and a Washington Post report last week that there is some movement in Russia to possibly allow the 46 families “in process” to continue forward. So we are prayerful and believing! Here’s a recent article.