Note: Pictures below are from Pixels on Paper. They are watermarked and can be found without the watermark here…
What’s your passion Dad? Is it work? Sports? Hunting? Fishing? Your kids? Your wife? What’s your passion? What is it that motivates you? What is it that “plows your garden,” “floats your boat?” What “does it” for you?
Can I tell you mine?
I contemplated it at Katy’s wedding a couple of weeks ago.
I was watching Katy and Josh as they shared their first dance and I thought, “Lord, this is what you called Pam and me to do.” And Pam smiles and I tear up. I’m the “softy.” What is my passion? Well there are many things… Ultimately it’s the spread of the Gospel…but, as it relates to my family, my passion would be embodied in 3 John 4:
I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.
As I walked Katy down the aisle this thought struck my mind as well.
I was telling her how proud I am of her and Josh! I literally was walking with a young lady who is “walking in the truth.” I thought: “That’s it! Mission accomplished!” But, it’s not totally accomplished. Katy will always be my child no matter how old I am or how old she is. Josh is now part of our family so he’s as much a child of mine as Katy. I will “do” for him as I “do” for Katy.
So, I walked her to the altar…
…And I prayed for God’s hand of favor, anointing and blessing on their lives.
And here it is…the moment that I had prayed and fasted about for all of Katy’s life…
I’m “giving away” my girl. I said, “Pam and I wholeheartedly give our daughter to be married to Josh.” At that moment, the process began and was culminated in a matter of a few minutes after vows were made and prayers were prayed. Katy became Josh’s responsibility. He was to now be her “protector, provider and spiritual leader.” Does this mean that Katy is “less than Josh?” Nope. Ephesians 5:21 speaks of mutual submission. Yet, there can only be one person who should bear the weight and responsibility of leading the home. That, according to Ephesians 5:22-31 is the man. Yes, the ground is level at the cross for the man and woman. Equal in the eyes of God. Yet, the man is to lead and bear the burden of the home. The lady was created to his helper. Not the other way around.
So, what does it mean when a father gives away his daughter? How should he bring her to the altar? Answer: PURE. That’s the job of the Father. If he doesn’t do that, then the Bride’s price that is being paid by the groom (in the case of Jesus, it was His life…that was the Bride’s price for the Church to the Father, God) is fraudulent. Biblically speaking, it is my job to bring the bride to the groom, spotless and without stain, wrinkle or blemish, and then it’s the groom’s job to take over this role (according to Ephesians 5:25-30). I write about this in my book at length.
Hey Dad…if you have a daughter still in the home, is she pure? It’s your job to see that she is sexually chaste and a virgin when she comes to the altar. Remember Joseph and Mary? We are coming into the Christmas season. Remember, Joseph was going to divorce Mary quietly because she was found pregnant (and he knew it wasn’t his child). He had been with no woman and she (Mary) was to have been with no man. So, when she was found to be pregnant, Joseph could have sought a certificate of divorce and broke the betrothal. Yet, the angel Gabriel explained in a vision to Joseph that all was ok.
My point is this. Dad’s, we no longer take a real responsibility for our daughter’s purity and virginity. But we should. The Bible teaches it. So, why sir do you allow your daughter to date guys you know nothing about? Why don’t you have the young man come sit on your sofa and declare his “intentions” for your daughter? I’ll tell you why we don’t. Because we (even Christians) no longer follow the teachings of the Bible…we follow the ways of man! I can’t say that strong enough. Let me put another couple of exclamation points at the end of this sentence!!! Dad’s we need to WAKE UP! I’m so burdened about this. We are delivering our sons and daughters to the marriage altar who are broken and unchaste and we think nothing of it. God help us!
When I handed Katy over to Josh, I didn’t guess if she was a virgin, pure and chaste…I knew it! Why? Because I was the one who was to be her protector and that includes protecting her purity. Most dads are totally in the dark on this subject and they let their sons and daughters run around with raging hormones and never consider the consequences. Well, I say to you respectfully, you’ve been told. Now you know the truth and you are responsible for it and how you will handle it.
And so, I could relax and smile as Katy looked at her husband…her Knight in Shining Armor…
And then it was time. Time for the first kiss.
Yep…Katy saved her first kiss for her wedding day. And that’s how it should be. Weddings in Scripture were consummated by sexual intercourse. Sorry to be graphic, but read about Isaac and Rebekah in Genesis 24 to see a first-hand look at this. So, the hugging and kissing that we think are so innocent for our children in their “casual dating” is like opening up the presents before Christmas.
So I smiled and Pam smiled and we had a great sense of satisfaction watching our daughter’s first kiss. And so the wedding concluded and our joy was complete…
So, there’s my passion. Right there in the photo. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. That’s my job…my first responsibility of ministry…right in my home…
Dad…what’s your passion?