The build-up is on. Build up to what? Well, several things. Namely:
and a family transition
In 32 days I’ll perform a ceremony that will create a domino effect in my home. A marked time of transition for the Brown family. And boy have I learned a lot through the years as we have built up to this.
It’s hard to believe this little girl is getting married…
From singing in church with her sister and mom…
To receiving gifts at a bridal shower given by the ladies of the church this past Sunday…
Where has the time gone? She’s all grown up…
The build up to the wedding. Want to know what I’m thinking?
Well…I don’t really know? How’s that for being crazy? My mind bounces from one thing to another and I think: “Oh no…she’s leaving! I won’t see her every day anymore! What are we going to do?” I have moments where my stomach flips like I’m going down the biggest roller coaster hill on the earth. I bite my lip and keep on going. But, there are times I cry. Happy tears and yes…sad tears. Not sad for Katy and Josh…but, for me and Pam, Kandace, Clara and Andrew.
There will be an empty place at the dinner table. As we hold hands before we say “grace” Andrew will by-pass Katy’s spot at the end of the table and reach to hold Clara’s hand. We’ve done that a couple of times recently and Andrew and Clara struggled with it. They didn’t say anything. They didn’t have to… I saw it in their eyes and on their faces. They both looked at me and their eyes said: “Help Daddy! Help!” Kandace and I have already had several discussions and I know Pam has as well.
We don’t try to hide the fact that Katy is leaving, but we don’t want to “beat it to death” either. We want to enjoy these remaining days. We don’t want them to be somber and melancholy. We want to rejoice! This is what we have prepared her to do. We have prepared her to “leave” not “stay.”
The Bibles says in Psalm 127:
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!
Well, I’m blessed and one of the four arrows is getting ready to leave the quiver.
When I began writing my book on “Raising Christ-Centered Young Adults” a couple of years ago, I never dreamed I’d have a daughter getting married in 2012. It’s still hard to fathom. But, as I have thought and pondered over the last several weeks, I realize that the mission has been accomplished with Katy. She is indeed a “Christ-Centered” young woman. If I look at her life, that’s what I see. I don’t see her life centered on anything or anyone other than Christ and He has brought to her a young man who has centered his life on Christ as well.
So, isn’t that what it’s all about? Isn’t that what we pray for, hope for and dream for our children? Sure it is and so it’s almost upon us. The wedding…
But, you know what…I’ve had to look past Nov. 10th to say, December 10th. By then, everything will have died down and the Brown family will have a new routine with three children in the home and not four. The Isaacs home will have two, instead of one and thus the transitions will continue. And you know what? I couldn’t be more pleased, contented and satisfied. Does my heart hurt some? Yes, of course! But, this is life. This is marriage. This is raising children. This is watching a young lady go through her teen years with no rebellion. No season of “sowing wild oats,” which, by the way, you won’t find in Scripture. She has passed through childhood to adulthood. She’s done it the right way. Is she perfect? No. Have Pam and I done a perfect job? Absolutely NO! But, we have tried to follow the Scriptures and seek the ancient path of surrender to Christ and His ways.
And so, the build-up is on! In 32 days, there will be a wedding. But, 33 days from now will be just as important as 32 days from now. Because life goes on. And so it does with you. This too shall pass. We live through seasons of life and those seasons are marked by many emotions that go up and down. But, the one constant is Jesus Christ. He never changes. Praise His Name!