It’s official! Katy and Josh are engaged. Here’s the proof…
Tuesday evening at Cascade Falls in the heart of the Blue Ridge Mountains, Josh began the process of linking his life to Katy’s forever. He caught a knee in front of a massive waterfall and offered to Katy his hand in marriage. She accepted.
Since then, the news has been circulating through Facebook and other places and many people are asking, “Were you surprised?” I guess I astonish people when I say “Absolutely not.” Why should it surprise me? Well, I suppose that’s the way it normally happens in our culture. Like in the movie “Father of the Bride”
Annie just shows up and says, “Here he is Dad!” Well, that may be how it’s done in Hollywood, but thankfully, Josh has chosen to follow the Word of God and let the Scripture be his guide.
Josh and I were in on the whole thing together. I wouldn’t let the “cat out of the bag” to anyone. Believe me…they kept trying. Who’s “they?” EVERYBODY! 🙂 I was so excited on Tuesday that I had a nervousness in my gut all day. Finally Josh sends me this picture…
I texted back, “Where’s the ring?” He said, “On her finger!” I thought it was the world’s smallest ring. I was like, “I can’t even see it!” 🙂 What a blessing this has been! I feel like I’m going through it all again with Pam.
You know the Scriptures teach that betrothal, espousal and marriage is something to be done as a family. You understand that don’t you? Somehow in our culture we have made engagement and marriage something that two young people just do on their own in some kind of bubble. Josh and Katy and Pam and I have been talking about this for weeks. Why? Because that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Why do we help our sons and daughters pick out a car, a college, even a dress or a ball glove and we won’t help them see who God has picked for them as a mate. It’s dumb the way the world does it. Absolutely idiotic, if you ask me.
Many of you have emailed me and Pam and said, “Thanks for showing us how it’s supposed to be done.” I had one dad say to me, “My daughter is only 4 years old, but I have an example to show her that’s ‘modern-day’ of how it’s supposed to be done.” Well, please hear me loud and clear… It’s nothing that I have done or Pam or Josh or Katy for that matter. It’s simply been a desire to follow the teachings of Scripture regarding betrothal and marriage.
There are so many things Katy is going to be spared because she has never dated and been on the “meat market.” She’s saved all her kisses for Josh. They have yet to kiss. She is saving that for the wedding date. Oh…the wedding date. Would you like to know when?
Now before I tell you I’m going to let you know that you are already preconditioned in what you think the answer should be. You are thinking: “She’s young isn’t she?” Yep. She’s 18. And you are thinking “He’s in the military.” Yep…the Marines. You are asking in your mind, “When does he get out?” You are thinking, “She’s got college.” And immediately you are thinking, “Boy this is going to be one LONG engagement.” Wrong! Try four months.
November 10, 2012
What! I can you hear you thinking it! What! Four months! Are you people crazy! Nope. Not at all.
The Bible teaches for a man to marry a woman that he must be able to be here Protector, Provider (show he can pay the “Bride’s Price,” in other words, he has a job) and be the Priest (spiritual leader of the home. Josh has the three P’s down pat. Why wait? Because the culture says to wait till you’re out of college, out of the military, established in a career, etc, etc, etc, etc. And all the while, stay PURE! Yeah right. It’s ludicrous. It won’t happen. Purity is an afterthought.
The things I share with you are “out there” in some of your minds. I recognize that. In fact, if you had said some of this stuff to me 10 years ago, I would have called you “crazy” myself. But, intuitively, you know it’s right. It’s the truth of the Word of God and it’s a beautiful thing when it’s done His way.
Take a look again…
What joy! Yes…sheer, unadulterated joy!
Now, does this mean that my heart is not heavy. Are you kidding? Tuesday night we sat down for supper and as we always do, we began the process of holding hands around the table. Andrew spoke up and said, “Katy not here!” Normally he holds Katy’s right hand and Clara holds Katy’s left hand. Andrew looked at me with a look that I knew he realized what was happening. He said, “Katy not here Daddy.” So, he reached for Clara’s hand and Katy’s chair was left vacant. At that moment it was all I could do to say the blessing over the meal before we ate. Is it going to be hard? Yes! But, this is why we raise children. We raise them to fly! We pull them from our quiver and we shoot them long and straight. I don’t want to raise a “Kidult” who lives in my basement until they are 40. Pam and I have been raising a daughter whom we love with all of our hearts for 18 years and one in whom we love enough to let her go to be the “suitable helper” for the son we gain in Josh Isaacs.
So, I’m happy. I’m content.
This is how I feel…
I’m overjoyed! And so is Pam! We will get to see what the Lord does to advance His kingdom through Josh and Katy Isaacs! Wow! What a joy!
By the way…in case you are wondering, the wedding will be at Mt Pleasant Baptist Church. We’ve been in the Reach Center for 6 years (tomorrow actually) and I guess Katy and Josh’s will be the first wedding in there. We are going to show people that you can have a wedding in a multi-purpose, “non-traditional” building. Why? Because they love the building so much? No. (Even though they do really like the building.) No, the building doesn’t have an elevated floor with beautiful stained glass windows, nor does it have chandeliers and oak pews. Oh…and yes…it has lines on the floor and ball goals on the walls (even though most never even see them when they walk in)… No, they want to get married there because they love the people who worship in that building and they have so many memories there.
I just love that about Katy and Josh. They are going against the grain. But, that’s what Christians are supposed to do, right? So…she’s engaged. Ain’t that great!! More to come in the days ahead.
Live it out the Biblical way folks…it’s hard…you’ll be called “strange,” you’ll get funny looks…but, I’m telling you…it’s worth it!!