I love to win! Do you? Well…that answer may vary some. I would imagine that most men would say, “Yes, if they are keeping score, I want to win!” Many ladies might say, “It really doesn’t matter to me.” Well, I’ll say it again. I like to win!
Recently on vacation I was out riding waves with my girls and two of my nieces. We were having a blast. I was having a hard time catching a good wave and riding it to shore and it was frustrating me to no end. Why? Because I love to win! I love to conquer! I love to get it done…to get it accomplished! Well, I finally caught a good one! Woohoo!
What a ride! You say, “That’s silly!” It probably is…but, deep down in the soul of a man there is usually that desire to conquer, accomplish and win.
You will see this play out on adult league softball teams, bowling leagues, basketball leagues, flag-football leagues, etc. You will also see it at work…with the proverbial “corporate ladder.”
It’s easy to always want to look for that next promotion isn’t it?
Well, there is something else that I was reminded of this past weekend that I want to win in my lifetime. What’s that? The heart of my wife and my children.
I took my family to see the film “Courageous” along with about 200 other folks at our church on Sunday afternoon. The movie was absolutely wonderful! I mean that wholeheartedly! I give it two thumbs up while I’m standing up! 🙂
I would highly encourage you to work it in your schedule to go see it! It’s a life-changing movie.
Now I say all of that to say this. Men…if we win at everything else in life on the ball field, in the woods, on the golf course, in the boardroom, classroom or cubicle, but we miss winning the hearts of our family…well, then we’ve missed it!
At the end of the day…or at the end of our lives, I should say…it won’t matter how big your paycheck or office was. It won’t matter if you won the most games in adult-league history. It won’t matter how big the buck, fish, golf swing or boat was. When people are standing around your coffin, it will only matter what you did for those that are…well…standing around your coffin.
I helped conduct a funeral yesterday afternoon. I had the graveside portion of the ceremony. It was a surreal time for me, because the gentleman who had passed away was a dear friend of my grandfather. I used to go with grandfather by his house as a boy and listen to he and grandpa talk. As I watched the pallbearers bring the casket to the grave, I thought back about this 96-year-old man’s life. He was truly a very, very successful business man and active community man. He was a Deacon in his church and was sincerely one of the nicest and kindest men I’ll ever know.
But, what struck me was this: none of that matters. What matters are the people sitting in those chairs across from his casket. That’s what matters. And the wonderful truth is…he had won their hearts. He was a godly father and a godly husband (his wife had preceded him in death). He got it right! He had won!
Men…if you are reading this…ask yourself this question? At what am I winning? Be honest.
At what am I winning?
Now make sure it’s worth the price you’re paying. I know I am constantly evaluating this in my own heart.
One last thing. Check the scoreboard…
How do we do that? Simple. Ask your wife: “Honey, have I won your heart?” Now ask a second question: “Am I still winning your heart?” Got it.
Now go to your children…
Ask the same questions: “Have I won your heart, son?”
“Am I still winning your heart, darling?”
Whether you realize it or not…they’re keeping score. Not on scoreboard, but in their hearts.
Victory! How sweet it is…
We’ve got the play…ok…here we go…
“Wife and kids on one”
On to VICTORY!