I was corresponding via text and email yesterday with a young lady that wants to stay pure and save herself for marriage. She desires not to be in the dating scene and get her heart exposed to potential pain and hurt…not to mention to save herself from potential sexual promiscuity. What a sweet young lady. But, oh the pressure! The pressure to date in our culture is amazing. I encouraged her to take a look at this YouTube of Josh Harris click here.
As I was trying to encourage this young lady it brought to mind Paul Washer and a message he preached years ago that angered a lot of parents as he shared about reaching their teens. Here’s the end of the message if you are interested. It’s pretty power packed…so buckle up watch here.
What is our desire for our young people? Do you have a vision for your family? Your children? What are your spiritual goals? Do you see the finish line? No matter what has happened so far. Do you see what your children can be? Even if they are in there 20s, 30s or 40s. Your kids deserve a college fund…trip to Disney…but, what about a godly father or mother, or godly grandfather or grandmother?
“There is no way to estimate the power of transformation and of love and of good when a man has a vision for discipling his sons and daughters.” Doug Phillips, President, Vision Forum.
You see…this is my passion…turning men’s hearts toward home…
“Whatever you and I allow in moderation…they will take to excess.”
“Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.”
I believe many of our young people are in big-time trouble today. They are disenchanted with life, the church, and their family. They find satisfaction in material possessions, abstract relationships and in many cases, abhorrent and immoral behavior. They seek and find their identity through their friends, what they do (I’m a cheerleader or I’m a football player or I’m a redneck) and even in what they wear or kind of cell phone they carry. Many have little direction, motivation or initiative to work beyond what is considered average.
Now don’t get me wrong…this description does not describe every young person. But, if we are going to truly have a vision for our young people we must want more for them than just graduate from high school, go to college, get a good job, make a lot of money, get married, have kids, build a 401-k, retire and well…play golf or play cards in a retirement home. Isn’t it more than that?
Why are our children walking away from their faith and the church at a 92% clip by their 20th birthday? Why do they seem so apathetic about the Lord? I guess a critical question would be…”Are they really saved?”
Can I ask you some questions? What if we’ve seen our best days as a nation? What if this nation doesn’t improve economically? What will that mean for our children…your children? Do they have the capacity to live on less? What if you told them they couldn’t have their cell phones any more and you had to drop cable and internet because you couldn’t afford it? What would they say? Is Jesus enough for them or do they want all the stuff and Jesus? In fact, could it be that they really would rather have the stuff. What is it that you are making your children crave? What is it that they can’t get enough of. You see, whatever we make our kids crave is what will become their “god.”
Are they spiritually grounded? Where are they reading in the Bible right now? Is it more important to you that they know the Bible or their Algebra more? Really be honest about that. Do you care more about them being successful in school or on the ball field or at the dance studio or do you care more about them knowing and obeying and following the Lord Jesus Christ? Is it your greatest joy that they are following the Lord or is it your greatest joy that they are making an “A.” By the way…I’m all for education…but I’ve not read in Scripture where the Lord has a special room in heaven for us to hang our diplomas.
You may say…”Wait a minute…I’m not even reading in the Bible consistently…how can I expect them to?” Precisely! That’s the point. We are not making disciples of our children because we aren’t disciples. Take this little quiz and see how you do on some basic Bible knowledge.
Basic Bible Knowledge Quiz
- How many Gospels are there?
- How many of the Gospel writers were Apostles?
- How many Major Prophets are there?
- What did Jesus say is the greatest commandment?
- What did Jesus say is the only reason a person can consider divorce?
- To whom did God promise that his descendants would be as numerous as the stars in the sky?
- How old was Jesus when he began his ministry?
- How many books in the Bible did the Apostle John write?
- Who wrote most of the Psalms? Who wrote most of the Proverbs? (Not the same person.)
- What book in the Bible is the story of Samson and Delilah found?
- What was Matthew’s occupation before he became an Apostle?
- Who was the king that had Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego thrown into the fiery furnace?
- Who was the first martyr (person killed for their faith) in the early church?
- What is the name of the garden Jesus prayed on the night He was arrested?
- What is the name of the man who came to Jesus at night whom Jesus told “You must be born again?”
- The Bible says, that a Christian should not be “yoked” or “joined” with whom?
- In the book of James, we are told to resist the devil and he will do what?
- What is the longest chapter in the Bible?
- King David was known in Scripture as a man after__________?
- Who was the man in the Old Testament that oversaw the rebuilding of the wall of Jerusalem?
How’d you do? Let’s see…
Bible Knowledge quiz…Answers
- How many Gospels are there? (4)
- How many of the Gospel writers were Apostles? (2…Matthew and John)
- How many Major Prophets are there? (4…Isaiah, Jeremiah, Ezekiel and Daniel)
- What did Jesus say is the greatest commandment? (Matt. 22:37…love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind…)
- What did Jesus say is the only reason a person can consider divorce? (Adultery-Matt. 5:31-32)
- To whom did God promise that his descendants would be as numerous as the stars in the sky? (Abraham-Genesis 15:5)
- How old was Jesus when he began his ministry? (30)
- How many books in the Bible did the Apostle John write? (A total of 5. The Gospel of John, 1, 2, 3 John, and the Book of Revelation)
- Who wrote most of the Psalms? The book of Proverbs? (David/Solomon)
- What book in the Bible is the story of Samson found? (Judges 13-16)
- What was Matthew’s occupation before he became an Apostle? (Tax Collector)
- Who was the king that had Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego thrown into the fiery furnace? (Nebuchadnezzar)
- Who was the first martyr in the early church? (Stephen-Acts 7)
- What is the name of the garden that Jesus prayed in where He was arrested? (Gethsemane)
- What is the name of the man who came to Jesus at night that Jesus told “You must be born gain?” (Nicodemus-John 3)
- The Bible says, that a Christian should not be “yoked” or “joined” with whom? (Unbeliever-2 Corinthians 6:14)
- In the book of James, we are told to resist the devil and he will do what? (Flee-James 4:7)
- What is the longest chapter in the Bible? (Psalm 119-has 176 verses)
- King David was known in Scripture as a man after__________? (heart)
- Who was the man in the Old Testament that oversaw the rebuilding of the wall of Jerusalem? (Nehemiah)
There are 168 hours in a week…and what we do with the time…how we “redeem” it with our children is what matters. Here’s how that 168 hours breaks down according to national statistics:
168 hours in a week:
– 60 hours-Work-related (work, driving to work, etc.)
– 50 hours-Sleeping (7.2 hours per night)
– 34 hours-Activities (eating, sports, groceries, paying bills, watching TV, exercising, computer time, etc.)
24 hours-It’s up to you. THIS 24 HOURS PER WEEK IS THE DIFFERENCE! That’s 3 ½ hours per day that will make or break you.
Parents…they want you! For them to succeed they need a relationship with you and ultimately they need to see that you know the Lord and are following the Lord. Are you a disciple? How are they going to grow if you and I don’t?