I have been preaching through a sermon series on relationships and marriage. It has been amazing to see what the Lord has done with the series so far. You know, since we have close to a 55% divorce rate in this nation today…this is certainly a timely topic. What I have been learning comes by way of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ book “Love and Respect.”
I highly recommend the book. If you are local to Wilkesboro, you can get it through Steve Bryan at his bookstore, “For Heaven’s Sake.” If not, you can get it online at www.cbd.com or Amazon for around $14. What I’ve learned is that women desire love and men desperately need respect. The Bible teaches this in Ephesians 5:33 and most of us, pastors/preachers have missed this. I know I sure did. Take a look at what God commands the husband to do and what He commands the wife to do.
33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Did you see it? Husbands MUST love their wives and wives MUST respect their husbands.
I’m providing the link to the message from Sunday. Many have told me already how much you appreciated it. If you missed it or would like to pass it along…click here for the link. (It’s the 9.26.10 message entitled “Understanding Each Other-Part 2)
Something else interesting I ran across a little while ago that doesn’t surprise me in the least is about how little Americans know about religion.
Oh…I’ve got to show you this…take a look at this picture…
Isn’t that neat? Sometimes when I have been in my little office in our basement writing, praying, “sermonizing” as I call it…I will take my hat off and leave it on the rail at the top of the steps. Why do I wear a hat? Because it’s cold in my office on my bald head!! Ha! Anyway, I noticed the other day that Andrew had put his little hat on top of mine. Why? I have no idea…other than he was wanting to imitate what I did. Reminds that he is always watching and yes…imitating what I do. Reminds me of what Paul said to the church at Ephesus in how we are to be imitators of God…
1 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Ephesians 5:1-2
Am I an imitator of Christ as Andrew is of me? If I am…then, I am to live a life of love. What is love?
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Is that me? Let me see…
4Kevin is patient, Kevin is kind. Kevin does not envy, Kevin does not boast, Kevin is not proud. 5Kevin is not rude, Kevin is not self-seeking, Kevin is not easily angered, Kevin keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Kevin does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 Kevin always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Kevin never fails.
Hmm. That’s kind of scary. Maybe I need to ask my wife or children and see what they think? Am I being an imitator of Christ? If I am…then, I must live a life of love and if I’m living a life of love then I should embody the characteristics of love… OUCH! That is tough! Lord, please help me. Please show me how to truly love like you.
I’ve learned it’s not truly “love” unless there is sacrifice. Do I love (sacrifice) for my wife? Do I love (sacrifice) for my children? Do I love (sacrifice) for my Lord? Or do I just say, “I love.” Jesus said, “They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” Lord, help me to love as you loved and gave your life up as a fragrant offering and sacrifice for me.